I had been single for three years, coming out of a thirteen year long marriage to a very abusive man. My ex-husband and I had been in counseling for nearly the whole duration of our marriage seeing no less than eleven different therapists of varying genres during that time. I thought that I had learned everything that I needed to know about relationships and communication to embark on a new, healthy and successful relationship. One thing I realized was that I never understood why women had affairs until I married my current husband. And, looking back, I would say that…