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I NEVER UNDERSTOOD WHY WOMEN HAD AFFAIRS UNTIL I MARRIED MY HUSBAND

I had been single for three years, coming out of a thirteen year long marriage to a very abusive man. My ex-husband and I had been in counseling for nearly…

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March 30, 2020
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, FAMILY

THE 4 PHASES OF ABUSE

An excerpt from the book, Broken and Battered by Muriel Canfield, states that the National Woman Abuse Prevention Project reports that there are three predictable stages/phases of abuse.  In my…

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September 19, 2019
LIFESTYLE, Spirituality

STAY OUT OF MY LANE

This is a post that I wrote for my church blog. Enjoy it here, too. A blog post about loving and understanding our unique gifts and submitting those qualities to…

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May 19, 2020
Empty Nesting, FAMILY, Health, LIFESTYLE, Uncategorized

KAYAKING SOLO AS A WOMAN

Confidently loading and unloading a kayak and which vehicle is best for transportation.

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October 3, 2020
Divorce, FAMILY, Single Parenting, Uncategorized

HOLIDAYS AND SINGLE-PARENTING: Why I no longer post images of my tree on Christmas morning

Single-parenting during the social media era is hard enough without having the added challenges of single-parenting, holidays and social media. The pressure of seeing the Christmas trees swamped with gifts…

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December 10, 2020
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    THE INTERSECTION

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    This is a post that I wrote for our church blog. We all find ourselves at intersections in life; but this is unlike one of those spiritual intersections. Read along as I go for a leisurely drive with my middle son to the intersection and get a snippet of what it can be like if we are the hands and feet of God. I have five sons, of my own; And, I have had to teach and practice driving with four of those five sons, thus far (number five is still too young to drive, thank God). So, essentially to…

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    WHEN MY STEPSON COMPLETED SUICIDE

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    It is a very unseasonably warm November night and I am laying in a hotel that overlooks the river. I can see and hear barge horns from the patio door as the barges are slowly pushed down the river by pusher boats. They are illuminated with blue and green lights against the dark night sky. My husband lays beside me. He breathes deeply, letting me know that he is asleep. We were running–not far, mind you–just two hours from home; far enough to be enough and close enough to be back home by bedtime, we thought. But, once we were…

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    10 Things to Look For: Suicide Prevention

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    FOREWORD After a stepchild has completed suicide is no time to reflect on fault or blame, pointing fingers this way and that; however, for the sake of writing a blog post that may help someone else, I am going to share about a lot of my own personal experiences here. It is not my intention to hurt anyone with what I have written. INTRODUCTION I had known my current stepchildren most of their lives. We attended church together. I was married to my ex-husband and was step-parenting his three children, as well as parenting my five sons; we were a…

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    Aftermath of Completed Suicide

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    IN PROCESS. CHECK BACK OFTEN FOR COMPLETION. DEADLINE DATE: 12.15.20

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    December 9, 2020
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    FLORIDA VACATION DURING A PANDEMIC

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    We decided to take a St. Augustine, Florida vacation on this particular year. It was, also, the year of the Corona Virus pandemic. So, we were iffy about whether to take a trip or not, but eventually decided to go, anyway. And, I am so glad that we did. FLYING DURING DURING A PANDEMIC Our vacation was not a typical Florida vacation because of traveling in the throes of the COVID-19 pandemic. Actually, we traveled during what some people are coining the “second wave” of the virus. Many things were open, but we were back to wearing masks, social distancing…

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This is my attempt at sort of 'starting new' on my This is my attempt at sort of 'starting new' on my Instagram. I took a four month break from social media to grieve after my step son completed suicide. Being on social media with happy smiles did not represent where we were in life. So, it was better to just take some time away.⁣
It feels like I have to 'cleanse the palate' to jump back in. As if to announce, I have been depressed for several months, but--hey--I am coming out of that (at least I am trying to); As if I have to have a distinct mark between the old me and the new me. #suicideawareness #militarysuicide #deathofachild
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This is my attempt at sort of 'starting new' on my This is my attempt at sort of 'starting new' on my Instagram. I took a four month break from social media to grieve after my step son completed suicide. Being on social media with happy smiles did not represent where we were in life. So, it was better to just take some time away.⁣
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It feels like I have to 'cleanse the palate' to jump back in. As if to announce, I have been depressed for several months, but--hey--I am coming out of that (at least I am trying to); As if I have to have a distinct mark between the old me and the new me.
It has been four months of healing. And part of th It has been four months of healing. And part of that process has been to hide away. How do you smile and post happy snippets when such a heaviness has fallen on your family? Social media held no fascination for me.But, as part of my healing, I promised myself to talk about it; Post about it and start to move out of the darkness.If you are interested in reading about our experience, I have links in my bio. Or, do you have any experience with suicide or military suicide? Tell me about it. Tell me how you got through it. #suicide⁣
#depressed #militarysuicide #itisforever #deathisfinal
My husband lost his only biological son to a milit My husband lost his only biological son to a military suicide.⁣
There is not much to add to that.⁣
It is heavy and nearly impossible to carry.⁣
We have hidden away for four months, processing the unbelievable and trying to heal the very best that we can...trying to get to know the new "us".⁣
And, I think that I am ready to get back onto social media. Maybe.⁣
If you are processing grief--any grief--it is okay to not be okay for however long you need to be.⁣
There is no timeline on healing from an overwhelming loss.⁣
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#dad #suicide #heal #helpme #stronger
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